The quality of our relationships is based on the quality of our communication. Regardless of who we are and what skills and qualifications we have and whether we are a leader or being led by one, we are all human beings. To be a good leader we need to understand the psyche, the nature of the basic human being’s need of another human being. When a leader looks at a team member it’s actually looking at another human being and not judging people by their behaviour but understanding where that behaviour comes from. In the words of Tony Robbins there are two ways people respond– one is lovingly where they are aligned with your thinking and the other is a cry for help to fulfill unmet needs that’s expressed very emotionally in different ways. Understanding the human nature is very important as then leaders can be more understanding and less critical. Finding a better way to tune in and deliver to people in a positive way the needs they are looking for to have a connect.
It all comes down to communication that is based on pure understanding.
If that understanding is not there in most times what occurs is a reciprocal behaviour of what is being communicated.
It comes down to one’s mindset and the energy one holds within oneself. One’s perception of things and how one looks at life and the understanding of human nature. If one is coming from a aware and self-secured centre within oneself then one isn’t, usually, judgemental or critical. Whatever one communicates either verbally or through our thoughts, as energy, comes back to us. Understanding this is very powerful and helps one to have an outlook on life that looks for and at the positive aspects within the reality of the situation.
This is the giving process. It’s not about what one wants from the other. It’s about what positivity one can give and create a connection where that positivity, in time, is reciprocated back. People really appreciate this when they are receiving such positivity and appreciation.
For leaders doing this means living it. That’s how it manifests out.
When we speak of negativity being present it always helps to look at oneself. At the end of the day it’s a reflection of the energy one is projecting that is reflected back. What counts is how we show up in life. Whatever be the scenario how and what we are bringing into it is what is going to be reflected back. This is where we need to know if we are at our peak state in terms of the energy we radiate. Often that is governed by our physiology. If we are not healthy or we are tired it affects our presence in the way we show up.
For leaders its vital to be aware of their physical and mental well-being and work on it everyday. Having rituals or routines that help you get centered and get your high energy going.
The other aspect is the communication that leaders do. It’s important and critical to be conscious of what they say. Words trigger emotions that have an impact on both the person saying it and the person hearing it. It’s important to be mindful of the words you speak from the perspective of how you feel about those words. The way you feel about the words is the impact those words will create.
The words impart energy through the emotional connection they convey. These in turn impact the value that we individually have. One of the key things of leadership is know or understand what are the value they are driving for someone in the team and to look at how those values could be aligned with that of the company. Doing this creates individual inspiration that drives the team member to contribute positively in all aspects.
Summing up– this comes back to the human side of leadership. It’s about understanding each individual as a human being. The more one finds what motivates them and connect that with their values and align it to that of the company, you’ve provided leadership that helps the team and company grow.